Parenting

I learn best from visuals and hands on things and this week I watched some amazing videos about parenting. I am excited about all the things that I learned this week. This job I think is one of the hardest things that anyone will ever do in this life and there for one of the most rewarding as well.
Creation is just one of the most amazing things!! Here are the wonderful videos my teacher provided.

Session 1: The Active Parent 
Session 2: Winning Cooperation
Session 3: Responsibility and Discipline 
Session 4: Building Courage, Redirecting Misbehavior

It's all about fulfilling the child's needs and helping them succeed in life.
One thing I though was of great value when needing the help of a child.

First ask them with a polite request.. This will help them feel respected and feel of the confidence that you have in them
If they don't respond to that than you can do an 'I' statement. Like "I feel taken advantage of when I have to clean up after you because I am doing more than my share of the work. I would like you to pick up your things and take them to your room". It says it much better in the videos but basically using "I feel.. because.. I would like.." This lets them know how you are feel and why and what you would have happen. 

If they don't respond to that then use a firmer statement where it is simple and strait forward. "Pick up these clothes now." It emphasized very strongly not to lecture and go on and on about everything but giving a clear firm statement is best. 

In class we also talked about consequences for actions and giving options with consequences let them help make the boundaries and consequences for going out of bounds. Making sure that it is a logical consequence and that it directly correlates with the broken bound.. not paying their phone bill.. taking the phone away until it is paid. 
Just make sure everyone is clear on everything before something happens again so they know before hand the consequences to their actions before they choose to do it.